How to Defuse a Family Feud

We have all been there: screaming at each other, calling names or ignoring the person we love and care most in this world. Family feuds can cause a lot of pain for the person responsible for starting the fight but also for the other person, who is being criticized. In order to avoid losing someone you love over a fight, you must learn how to defuse these kind of fights and make peace. So today, we will teach some efficient techniques to defuse a family feud.

Determine the reason you’re fighting for

In order to make peace and forgive each other, you must first get to the root of the problem. Take some time to breath and calm yourself and spend a couple of minutes or hours alone, with just your thoughts so that you can think clearly. Think about what may have caused the fight in the first place. It may be related to money or work. After you’ve find out which the true reason that has started the fight in the place, only then you can proceed to the next step.

Make the first move

Whether we’re talking about a sibling, a parent or your partner, it’s important to take the initiative first and be the one that says “look, I think it’s better for us to have a normal discussion, maybe we can sort things out”. Be the hero in this story and step up to start the healing process.

Listen to what the other person has to say

After you have bought calmed down and have reached a conclusion or not, you need to talk things out but without accusing each other of doing things wrong and so on. Forget about your ego and listen to what the other person has to say. Put yourself in their shoes for some time and try to see things from their perspective.

Take responsibility for your actions

When fighting with someone, we sometimes tend to see things in a different light so we misjudge most of the things and overact. We think that the other person is wrong, that we are the only ones suffering and that we should have the right to demand an apology but we all know deep inside that you can’t start a smoke without a fire and that maybe it was us who have started the fight in the first place. Swallow your pride and offer an apology.

Healing the relationship

This last step is also the most important one because it’s supposed to help you heal the relationship and make peace. Consider spending more time together. Go for a walk in the park, watch some movies, play video games or have small talk. It won’t be easy at first but after a couple of weeks or so things will get back to how they were, long before starting a family feud.